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FAMOUS LESBIANS AND GAY COUPLES
It is a popular myth that same-sex relationships don’t last. Our Partners National Survey of Gay & Lesbian Couples gives us data to the contrary. This list of well known couples — some from ancient times, others more recent — suggests the reality of committed couples, and the roles that partners plays in each other’s lives and, in some cases, each other’s work.

The data for our list comes primarily from books, and occasionally from reputable Web sites. We are often sent suggestions, however, do not post a couple until we have some form of published verification.

We do not include in our list, for instance, such couples as Emily Dickinson and Sue Gilbert. While they had a deep love for each other, there has not been enough evidence that they considered themselves actually partnered. (These women did dream of establishing a quiet life together in a little house somewhere, but, because of finances and social obligations, could not do so.)

Gathering information about same-sex families is sometimes very difficult. Because of the fact that homosexuality has, at various times in history, been attacked or forbidden, historians and their publishers have often refused to acknowledge that famous people had same-sex partners. Most history books for k-12 students delete any mention of homosexuality, never mind offering any reference to same-sex families.

Then there are the relatives who, embarrassed by their famous kin’s same-sex life partners or lovers, choose to hide or burn the love letters that would allow the world to see their relative’s true orientation, as is the case with Emily Dickinson.

Because of this kind of omission, many listeners of Benjamin Britten, for instance, have no idea that he was gay and that his orientation informed so much of his work. In fact, he wrote much of his music to be sung by Peter Pears, his partner of 40 years. Britten’s work continues, to this day, to influence the face of music.

    “The biographical headnotes in every sophomore [literature] anthology suggest the importance Petrarch’s love for Laura, of Dante’s love for Beatrice, of Wordsworth’s love for Annette, but never are we told [in textbooks] that Oscar’s love for Bosie informs some of his prose...; that Whitman’s love for Peter Doyle influenced his prophetic theory of comradeship; that A.E. Housman’s unrequited love for A.J. Jackson contributed to the bitter but restrained sorrow of much of his poetry …; or that Edna St. Vincent Millay’s frequent references to Sappho or Lesbos are not prompted by her love for Eugene, or that Tennyson’s love for Arthur Hugh Hallam prompted him to write that most ‘universal’ of sentiments: ‘Tis better to have loved and lost/Than never to have loved at all.’”
    — Rictor Norton in “Ganymede Raped: Gay Literature — The Critic as Censor,”
    Gay Sunshine Journal #23, Nov. 1974

Few think twice when an historian figure is assumed to be heterosexual, though there may be no factual grounds whatsoever for this assumption.

Historically, couples themselves have often been silent about the nature of their relationship because they consider it private. And in some cases they kept silent because they knew that they could be ostracized, imprisoned or murdered — often at the insistence of various religions.

Famous Historical Couples
Years
Together
Mazo de la Roche (author)
Caroline Clement
75
Edith Hamilton (classicist)
Doris Fielding Reid
60
Romaine Brooks (painter)
Natalie Barney (heiress)
55
Lady Eleanor Butler
Sarah Ponsonby
    Known as the “Ladies of Llangeollen” in the General Evening Post, 1790.
53
Mary Woolley (author, Mt. Holyoke College president)
Jeannette Marks
    Wooley was the only female member of the 1932 Geneva Arms Conference.
52
J.C. Leyendecker (illustrator for the Sat Evening Post, Collier’s, etc.)
Charles Beach (artists model; the “Arrow Collar Man”)
50
Mary “Molly” Dewson (known as “Americas first female political boss”)
Polly Porter
50
Octave Thanet
Jane Crawford
50
Mary Renault (author)
Julie Mullard
50
William Haines (20s-30s movie actor, interior decorator)
Jimmie Shields (househusband)
    Referred to by their friend Joan Crawford as “The happiest married couple in Hollywood.”
47
Axel Axgil (gay activist)
Eigil Axgil (gay activist)
46
J. Edgar Hoover (FBI chief, transvestite)
Clyde Tolson (FBI special agent)
44
Edward Perry Warren (art connoisseur)
John Marshall (archaeologist)
    Warren strove to create an informal “brotherhood of men” in his home devoted to the Hellenic ideal. His Greek antique collections form the core collections at the Boston Museum of Fine Arts and the New York Metropolitan Museum of Art. Warren commissioned Rodin’s “The Kiss.”
44
Sir John Gielgud (actor)
Martin Hensler
40
Benjamin Britten (composer)
Peter Pears (singer)
40
Marguerite Yourcenar [born Marguerite de Crayencour] (author)
Grace Frick (academic)
    Yourcenar wrote “Alexis,” “Memories of Hadrian,” “The Abyss,” and an influential essay on Yokio Mishima. She became the first and only woman to be admitted to the Académie Fançaise in 1980.
40
Rosa Bonheur (painter)
Natalie Micas
40
Willa Cather (author)
Edith Lewis
40
H.D. [Hilda Doolittle] (poet)
Bryher (writer)
40+
Gertrude Stein (poet, author)
Alice B. Toklas (author)
39
Edward Carpenter (reformer, author, England’s first gay activist)
George Merrill
39
Janet Flanner (journalist)
Natalia Danesi Murray (writer, editor, radio commentator)
38
[Flanner’s 2nd relationship]
Raymond Burr (actor, philanthropist)
Robert Benevides (Burr’s business partner, philanthropist)
35
Paul Cadmus (painter)
Jon Andersson (singer, actor)
35
W.H. Auden (poet)
Chester Kallman (poet)
34
Lou Harrison (composer)
William Colvig (instrument designer)
33
[1967-2000 ended with William’s death]
Christopher Isherwood (author)
Don Bachardy (painter)
32
Charlotte Witton (1st woman mayor of a major Canadian city, Ottawa)
Margaret Grier
    Witton is credit with creating the slogan:
    “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought of half so good … luckily, it’s not difficult.”
32
Ned Rorem (composer, author)
James Holmes (organist)
32
Maria Louise Pool (author)
Caroline M. Branson
    While Branson is listed as “literary companion” in Pool’s obituary, the two are buried together, with a double headstone, in the Rockland, Massachusetts Mt. Pleasant Cemetery.
32
Leonardo da Vinci (artist, inventor)
Giacomo Caprotti (Leonardo’s apprentice)
30 approx.
Samuel Barber (composer)
Gian Carlo Menotti (composer)
30
Anna Cogswell Wood
Irene Leache
30
Dame Ivy Compton-Burnett
Margaret Jourdain
30
Sarah Orne Jewett (novelist, feminist)
Annie Adams Fields (philanthropist, biographer)
30
Radclyffe Hall (author)
Lady Una Troubridge
30
Noël Coward (playwright, songwriter)
Graham Payn (actor)
29
[Coward’s last
relationship]
W. Somerset Maugham (author)
Gerald Haxton
29 approx.
[met when
Maugham was 40]
Francis Poulenc (composer)
Pierre Bernac (baritone)
28 approx.
Jean Cocteau (author, poet, filmmaker)
Jean “Jeannot” Marais (actor)
26
[met in 1937;
Cocteau died 1963]
James Whale (director in theater & film [Frankenstein, Invisible Man, Show Boat])
David Lewis (producer, studio exec.)
26
Katharine Lee Bates (poet, author, Wellesley College professor)
Katharine Coman (Wellesley College Dean)
    Bates wrote the poem “America the Beautiful:”

    “O beautiful for spacious skies,
    For amber waves of grain,
    For purple mountain majesties
    Above the fruited plain!
    America! America!
    God shed his grace on thee
    And crown thy good with brotherhood
    From sea to shining sea!”

25
Kathryn Hulme (author The Nun’s Story)
Marie-Louise Habets (ex-nun)
21 or more
Allen Ginsberg (poet)
Peter Orlovsky (poet, gardener)
20
James Buchanan (U.S. Representative, Senator, Secretary of State under Polk, minister to Russia & Great Britain, 15th President)
William Rufus Devane King (U.S. Senator, minister to France, Vice-President under Franklin Pierce)
20
Sylvia Beach (bookstore owner, publisher)
Adrienne Monnier (writer, publisher)
20
Charlotte Cushman (actor, arts patron)
Emma Stebbins (sculptor)
20
Maud Hunt Squire [aka Miss Furr]
Ethel Mars [aka Miss Skeene]
20
Cris Williamson (singer, songwriter)
Tret Fure (music producer, engineer)
20
[Relationship ended in 2000]
Janet Flanner (journalist)
Solita Solano (drama critic, editor)
19+
[Flanner’s 1st relationship]
Alexander the Great (known world conqueror)
Hephaistion (Al’s primary cavalry commander and right-hand man)
19
W. Somerset Maugham (writer)
Alan Searle
19
[met when
Maugham was 72]
Joe Orton (playwright)
Kenneth Halliwell
16
Al Parker (b. Andrew Okun; director, producer, porn star)
Richard Cole (producer, actor)
16
Cary Grant (screen actor)
Randolph Scott (screen actor)
15
Edward II (king)
Piers Gaveston (son of a king)
14
Tennessee Williams (playwright)
Frankie Merlo
14
Amy Lowell (poet)
Ada Russell
13
Michael Bussee (Helped found Exodus International, an anti-gay group that falsely claims orientation conversion.)
Gary Cooper (not the screen actor)
12
[They met in an “ex-gay” ministry in late 1970s. Denounced the ministry as fraudulent in 1978. Married each other in 1982. Relationship ended with Cooper’s death in 1991.]
Melissa Etheridge (singer)
Julie Cypher (film & video director)
12
[Relationship ended in 2000]
Lige Clarke (author, activist)
Jack Nichols (author, activist)
11
[Relationship ended with Clarke’s death in 1975]
Barney Frank (U.S. House of Representatives)
Herb Moses (potter)
11
[Relationship ended in 1998]
Armistead Maupin (author)
Terry Anderson
10
Billy Strayhorn (composer; “Take the ‘A’ Train,” etc.)
Aaron Bridgers (pianist)
10
[Billy’s 1st relationship]
Gianni Versace (fashion designer)
Antonio D’Amico
10+
James Charles Stuart - VI of Scotland & I of England (author “Basilicon Doron,” King, commissioned 1611 version of the Bible)
George Villiers (Earl of Buckingham)
10+
Walt Whitman (poet)
Peter Doyle (streetcar conductor)
10
Noël Coward (playwright, songwriter)
Jack Wilson (business manager)
10
[Coward’s 1st major
relationship]
Oscar Wilde (author, playwright)
Lord Alfred Douglas
9
Angelina Weld Grimké (author, abolitionist)
Mamie Burrill
7
Sara Teasdale (poet)
Margaret Conklin
7
Publius Aelius Hadrian (emperor)
Antinous
6
Jean Cocteau (author, poet, filmmaker)
Raymond Radiguet (actor)
6
[met in 1917;
Radiguet died 1923]
Jasper Johns (artist)
Robert Rauschenberg (artist)
6
[Relationship ended in 1961]
T.E. Lawrence (archaeologist, spy, author)
Dahoum (personal assistant)
5
Serge Diaghilev (impresario)
Vaslav Nijinsky (dancer)
4
Rock Hudson (actor)
Marc Christian
4
Billy Strayhorn (composer; “Take the ‘A’ Train,” etc.)
Bill Grove
3
[Billy’s 2nd relationship ended with his death in 1967]
Akhenaten - formerly Amenhotep IV (pharaoh: 10th king, 18th dynasty)
Smenkhkare (co-ruler)
3+
Liberace (Walter Valentino) (piano entertainer, philanthropist)
Scott Thorson
3
Ellen DeGeneres (comedic TV entertainer)
Anne Heche (actress)
3
[Relationship ended in 2000]
Paul Verlaine (poet)
Arthur Rimbaud (poet)
2
Eleanor Roosevelt (philanthropist, presidential first lady)
Lorena Hickok (reporter)
Unknown
Katherine Bradley (author)
Edith Cooper (author)
    They were aunt and niece — living their whole lives together — and wrote books under the shared pen name of “Michael Field.”
Unknown
Margaret Anderson (co-founder of The Little Review)
Jane Heap (co-founder of The Little Review)
Unknown
Margaret Anderson (co-founder of The Little Review)
Georgette Leblanc (soprano, author)
Unknown
[relationship followed
Anderson & Heap’s]
Margaret Anderson (co-founder of The Little Review)
Dorothy (Enrico) Caruso (author)
Unknown
[relationship followed
Leblanc’s &
Enrico’s deaths]
Jane Heap (co-founder of The Little Review)
Elspeth Champcommunal (clothing designer)
Unknown
[relationship followed
Heap & Anderson’s]
William III (King of England)
William Bentinck
Unknown
Sergius (saint)
Bacchus (saint)
Unknown
Francis Beaumont (dramatist)
John Fletcher
Unknown
John Maynard Keynes (economist)
Duncan Grant (painter)
Unknown
Frederico Garcia Lorca (author, poet, playwright)
Phillip Cummings
Unknown
Anne Cormac Bonny (pirate)
Mary Read, alias “Mark” Read (pirate)
    These two women where hot-headed, bisexuals who also happened to be theives, arsonists, and cut-throat murderers. Historical knowledge about them is based largely upon “A General History of the Robberies and Murders of the Most Notorious Pirates,” by Captain Charles Johnson (probably a pseudonym for Daniel Defoe). It was published in 1724 after Anne and Mary were brought to trial for piracy on the high seas in 1720.
Unknown
Lucius Morris Beebe (author; philanthropist; named one of the ten best-dressed men in America for several years)
Charles Clegg (literary collaborator)
    Beebe and Clegg traveled for many years in Beebe’s elaborate private railroad car. Among the more than 30 books Beebe wrote were many on railroads.
Unknown
Cheng I (pirate)
Chang Pao (pirate, colonel)
    Pirating in the South Seas, Cheng I kidnapped Chang Pao, 15. They became lovers, then Cheng adopted Chang. After Cheng’s death, and a failed campaign to become emporer, Chang became a colonel in the Chinese army.
Unknown
Gilgamesh (Babylonian king)
Enkidu
    Tales of heroic deeds by this couple are recounted in the world’s earliest known epic poem, “Gilgamesh” (2,000-2,700 years BC). In one version of the tale, Gilgamesh is so distraught when Enkidu dies that he travels to the underworld in an attempt to retrieve him.
Unknown

Famous Contemporary Couples
Relationship
Started In
Tiny [Ernestine] Davis (musician)
Ruby Lucas (musician)
1948
Gore Vidal (statesman, author, actor)
Howard Austen
1948
Del Martin (author, editor)
Phyllis Lyon (author, editor)
1951
Jane Rule (writer, critic, teacher)
Helen Sonhoff (teacher)
1956
Harry Hay (author, activist)
John Burnside (activist)
1963
Barbara Gittings (activist, editor, bibliographer)
Kay Tobin Lahusen (activist, writer, photographer)
1961
Phillip Johnson (architect)
David Whitney (art curator, collector)
1967
Barbara Grier (publisher)
Donna McBride (publisher)
1972
John Schlesinger (filmmaker)
Michael Childers
1976
John Rechy (author)
[unnamed in articles]
1981
Steve Gunderson (U.S. House of Representatives)
Rob Morris (architect)
1983
Mel White (minister, author, founder of Soul Force, non-violent justice movement)
Gary Nixon
1984
Troy Perry (Rev. Elder, moderator and founder of Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Church)
Phillip Ray DeBlieck
1985
Minnie Bruce Pratt (poet, essayist, educator, activist)
Leslie Feinberg (writer, activist)
?
Sir Elton John (singer, songwriter, activist)
David Furnish (film producer)
1993
Col. Margarethe Cammermeyer (soldier, activist)
Diane Divelbess
?

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